In the book Cross-cultural Business Negotiations by Donald W Hendon, there is this story about a US sales professional with years of negotiating prowess in the US, pulling down walls due to his aggressive negotiation skills. He was asked to negotiate a business deal in Japan and he failed because the same aggressive skills that brought home the bacon in the US was considered a sign of weakness and insincerity in Japan. So negotiating on foreign soil presents a little more challenge.

But whatever the reason for negotiating or the country in which you are negotiating, the important thing is looking beyond the surface and understanding the motivations of the other party. This might be hard to do when you have barriers like cultural, socio-economic, political and religious differences. But you can break through those walls and infer the motivations of the other party; study weak points, analyze your strong point and get a win-win result. Here are property negotiation tips to achieve these whether on home or foreign soil.

1.     Be respectful.

Being respectful and courteous tells the other party you’re calm and might signify you have the strong ground. This would make the negotiations an enjoyable ground for you. Moreover, everyone likes respectful people. Likability can work in your favor. But going in all firing with an aggressive attitude and you could be sending the wrong signals.

2.     Do not be afraid to ask for what you want.

Successful negotiators are assertive and challenge everything - they know everything is negotiable. Being assertive means asking for what you want and refusing to accept NO for an answer. (Check the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness). However practicing being assertive will take care of your interests while maintaining respect for the interests of others. When you put your own interests in front of others and with a lack of respect, then you are negotiating aggressively.

3.      Listen.

The most popular word in the English language (or any other language for that matter) is "I". Therefore, it stands to reason that most people love to hear themselves speak. Communication is imperative in any negotiation. Negotiators are looking for that point that will unite the two sides and create a platform for a result. Good negotiators ask questions and then listen. The other party will tell you everything you need to know - all you have to do is listen. Follow rule 90/10 - listen 90% of the time, speak 10% of the time. Make a lot of open questions sit back, relax and listen and you will be amazed at what you hear.

4.     Be Prepared.

It’s not a good strategy when you have to sit down at the negotiating table and think "I wish I'd known that" or "If I just found out before leaving the office. Know whatever there is about the house, the neighborhood and the state before getting to the negotiating table.

5.     Always be willing to walk.

Never negotiate without options. If you rely too much on the positive outcome of a negotiation, you lose your ability to say NO. When you say to yourself: "I will walk if I cannot secure a negotiation that is satisfactory," the other side perceives that you mean business. Their resolution will force them to make concessions.

Doing your homework is vital to successful negotiation. You cannot make accurate decisions without understanding both sides of the process. The more information you have about the people you are trading with, the stronger your negotiating power.

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Moving broad for work or fun is both exciting and frightening, here are some things you should know

An ancient quote says, 'those who travel across the seas only change their skies, but not their souls", nowadays the opposite is true. Studies show that people who live abroad find it easier to engage with other cultures. Moving abroad gives you more perspective on life. But it's not easy to take the first step. The thought of leaving your family and friends can be distressing coupled with the fact that you may not know anybody in the new country. However, it's an opportunity to leave your comfort zone and explore different cultures and issues you haven't seen before.

But there are challenges you'll encounter. Paperwork can be exhausting; The stress of trying to blend into a new environment, especially when you're not fluent in their language; The guilt that comes with leaving your family and friends, which they may not initially understand. But facts prove that the distance could actually strengthen your relationship. So if you're tired of the same old routine and want some more adventure in your life, you'll find that you can master the skill of dealing with the challenges that come with living in a foreign city. Whether you're a millennial moving to another country for work or a retiree just seeking adventure, these tips will help make the move as painless as possible.

Tips For Moving Abroad

1. Make some research. You already know this is important. It's a no-brainer. Know a bit about the political climate of the country, the economic climate, geography and important public figures. Also learn something of the culture, history and staple foods.

2. You don't really need much stuff. Unless you're running away from your home country, never to return, you'll find that excess luggage is just what it's called; excess luggage. It's a given that there will be stores and large shopping outlets in the country you're moving to. Also leaving back the excess stuff might be a way to dispose of materialism and reprioritize what's important in your life. However, never forget to take the important stuff. Don't forget to take your favorite 'Abercrombie' shirt or else your mind might not leave home.

3. Don't expect to settle in at once. It might take at least three months before you fully integrate with the culture of a particular place. You might find it hard to make friends during this time. So, don't rush and don't feel like you've to immerse completely while trying to socialize but stretching your limits of comfortability. During this time, you can observe. Also, maybe, get some interesting 'alone' activities to keep it fun.

4. Experience new things. Travelling abroad and not trying new foods, people and customs is like going to school and not learning anything. Don't be afraid to experience new things. Also, don't limit yourself to the big cities. If you travel to Spain, don't spend all your time in Madrid. Check out the smaller town, you'll learn and experience much more.

5. Make local friends. As a new property investor abroad, your local friends will be able to assist you a lot. They'll give you practical information and might even put in some legwork for you. Generally, you're not moving abroad to hang out with fellas from your home country. Therefore, mingle with the locals.

The kitchen is the heart of the home. There will never be a day in your life when you don't enter the kitchen for some reason. It is where groceries go in and delicious pizzas and finger licking butter chicken comes out. The kitchen is where the children first learn to be of some service. It's also where you hone your cooking skills by trying new recipes.

The design of the modern kitchen has created an evolution in function that has made the kitchen a place of entertainment. An open kitchen is a place for socializing and hanging out with friends and families. This helps families spend more time together. You can keep an eye on your daughter while you cook. Your spouse can perch herself on the counter and regale you with tales from her workplace, you can share a bottle of wine with your friends as you cook.

Being such an important part of the home, it's important that home sellers make the kitchen attractive to prospective buyers. Here are some home staging tips to make your kitchen spark more attention from prospective buyers.

You want to make your kitchen radiate a fresh 'feel'. Buyers should want to stay a while longer in your kitchen. Although the process of staging your kitchen may warrant a few inconveniences, it's usually worth it because an attractive kitchen will sell your home faster than any other thing you do to prepare your home.

1. Make it sparkling clean. Obviously, buyers won't be able to imagine themselves in your home if your home has a dirty kitchen. The neater your kitchen looks, the better. From kitchen windows, to rugs, to stoves and dishes, make sure that everything shines. Hiring a professional cleaning company might be worth the cost.

2. Apply fresh paint. A quick and easy way to make your kitchen appear fresh is putting fresh paint on walls. Let the colors used complement colors of cabinets and drawers to bring out cohesiveness.

3. Use energy efficient lighting. Another relatively inexpensive tweak to make your kitchen feel fresh and new is updating lighting with energy efficient and bright ones.

4. Update kitchen hardware. Buyers love a kitchen with updated fixtures. Don't leave your kitchen with old kitchen faucets and outdated lighting fixtures. Inexpensive, simple updates like garbage disposal, stainless steel appliances, faucets and cabinet hardware can make your kitchen appear new and attractive to prospective buyers. You can also go a step further by adding some pizazz to your countertops. You can put in decorative canisters, herbs, bowl of fruit, new cookbooks and new tea towels, etc.

5. Declutter. Decluttering may be the hardest part of staging a kitchen for sale. Your kitchen should no longer reflect you, but it should give potential buyers a chance to use their imagination. The easiest way to start the process of decluttering is to completely clear off your counters, then only put selected decorative items to fill in and soften the corners of a long expanse of countertop.

An ugly kitchen can make the home sit on the market for long. Staging your kitchen right might require some effort and inconvenience but if the property is priced right and looks fantastic, you should only have to be inconvenienced a very short time.